I'm not the perfect mom. And that's ok.

Written by Genuine Joy Kid Contributor :: Whitney Flickinger

Now that school is underway and sports are in full swing, I feel like I run around half of the time in 8,000 different directions.  I always struggle with making sure the kids get homemade or at least semi-homemade meals, get into bed at a decent time and do their 20 minutes of reading a night.   I typically write about something I did with the kids or ideas of things to do with them.  This time it is an open letter to all of the mom’s out there that are doing the best they can!

This year my oldest is participating in four different activities – Girls on The Run, Cheerleading, Softball and Brownies.  My youngest is currently only doing one activity – baseball.  I struggled with him only doing one activity because there are so many kids that have something every single night, but for now one is enough.  Plus, why compare my kid to others, right?!?  Unfortunately in this day in age parents are trying to outdo one another.  There are some nights when they have practice at the same time at two different locations and I wish I could be at both, but it just isn’t possible.  I have come to realize that I cannot do it all and be at two places at the same time; and that is OKAY!

There are mornings where we leave the house at 8:10 AM and do not walk in the door until after 8:00 PM that evening.  It is a long day!  Of course, I have not even thought about dinner or pulled anything out of the freezer to make.  So, back out the door we go to get take-out.   I always read about how moms make the weeks meals on Sunday and have them all divided out for the week ahead.  Not me!  That would mean I would be organized.  I tend to fly by the seat of my pants most of the time and I have learned to be okay with that.  I try to pick the healthier restaurants or take-out joints and I justify the take-out by telling myself that all of the other meals that I serve are healthy!  Plus, the way I look at it, my kids are active and are healthy growing kids!

Then there is the topic of homework!  Doing homework in my house is like pulling teeth.  With sports, the neighborhood kids knocking at the door and not getting home until 6 PM, it is a challenge!  Plus, the new curriculum that was introduced into our school system, forget about it!  I have no idea how to show my 8 year old how to do basic math.  For whatever reason they changed the way we learned and have them drawing what looks like diagrams and lines with humps.  I just don’t get it!  I have a feeling my 8 year old will be getting a tutor very soon.  They are supposed to read 20 minutes a night.  We get it in most nights, but some nights it is only 10 with the other 10 minutes the following morning.   Hey they got the 20 minutes in, right?!?

When I find myself thinking about all of the things I am not “doing right”, by societies standards, I think about how happy my kids are and how they are thriving.  So moms don’t compare yourself to others, don’t judge others that don’t raise their kids like you do, and support one another!  We are in the same race, overcoming the same obstacles and are looking for the same outcome.  To raise polite, smart, well rounded children.  One of my favorite quotes is “Before you judge me, make sure you are perfect.” - Unknown