It's a fact that I'm pretty traditional (read: old school) and a big fan of traditions, rituals and roles. The other day I was talking to a friend about airline travel and she scoffed at women who dressed up when they fly, stating that this was the 21st century, not the 1950's. But, there's a big part of me that values the traditions of year's past.
The first time I boarded a plane -- naturally, it was for a swim meet -- I was 10 years old and headed to Atlanta. The week prior, my mom took us shopping for a new outfit specifically for the flight, because no sweats or jean were allowed. I loved it. Doug will share a similar story, from his childhood, about wearing a clip on tie when his parents took him out to dinner. There's an old adage that goes something like "When you look good, you feel good; when you feel good, you do good."
Thinking back on this tradition, I still tend to dress for flights and travel. Most often, it's jeans, but never sweats or pajamas and always more on the comfortable side for international flights -- think skinny jeans with a bit of stretch. But I started thinking about other traditions that may seem dated, but still very relevant today. In no particular order, here are 12 that came to mind:
1. No rude or shocking language, especially at the table. Your language is a representation of your mind and heart.
2. Don’t talk with your mouth full. I don’t need to explain this one.
3. Dress tastefully: A lady dresses appropriately for the occasion.
4. Phone calls: When in doubt, a good rule of thumb is not to make phone calls before 9 am or after 9 pm.
5. Be gracious: She never just says, “hello” when being introduced to someone. She offers a kind greeting like, “it’s a pleasure to meet you” or “how are you this evening?”
6. Her cell phone is on silent or vibrate mode and put away for meals, meetings and church.
7. Always, “yes, please” or “no, thank you.” Never “yep” or “nope.”
8. Give compliments with sincerity and only when you means it. A lady does not say things just to say them. Insincerity is easier to read than we think.
9. A lady offers to help someone in need. Being a lady starts with how you treat yourself and others. She offers her seat to the elderly, disabled or a parent with small children.
10. She RSVPs promptly, reads an invitation thoroughly and does not ask for exceptions. She always promptly sends a detailed thank you note to anyone who has shown her hospitality. (I'm still a work in progress here, but I respect and know that it's a time honored tradition)
11. She never arrives empty handed. Bringing a small hostess gift shows your appreciation for the preparation your host has done.
12. Her word is her bond. A lady warrants a respectable reputation purely by the consistency of her word. She always keeps her promises.
Any that I missed or ones that came to your mind immediately? Post in the Facebook comments or tweet to @HilaryPhelps.