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Most people looking at your life would never know. That's the loneliest part. Hilary Phelps works with women who are done pretending everything is fine — women in the messy, beautiful, brutal middle of becoming someone new. Private coaching and a vetted community for women who are ready to stop collapsing quietly.
Private coaching through The Container is for the woman who needs more than information. She needs structure. Accountability. Someone who will hold the line when her nervous system is telling her to run.
This is not open enrollment. Hilary works with a small number of women at a time. The Container is a defined, boundaried space — not a course, not a program — where your next chapter gets the structure and witness it deserves.
Apply for The ContainerThe Right Room Sanctuary is a private membership community built for women navigating transition, reinvention, and the particular exhaustion of holding it together alone.
You know the feeling. The version of you that everyone sees is composed, capable, fine. And the version that wakes up at 3am is something else entirely. The Sanctuary is where those two women finally get to be in the same room.
Twice a month, Hilary opens a call. The Friday before, she sends a prompt — a question to sit with, carry into the week, and bring back when the room opens. Between calls, she drops voice notes through Voxer. Spontaneous. Real. The closest thing to having her as a thought partner in your pocket.
This is not a course. It's not a support group. It's a room full of women doing serious inner work, held by someone who has done it herself.
The Sanctuary is now open to its first 50 founding members at $49/month for life — locked forever. 50 spots remain.
Claim a Founding SpotHilary Phelps spent years understanding, from the inside, what it means to hold a life together that is quietly falling apart. She doesn't guide from theory. She guides from the specific, earned knowledge that comes from having done the work herself — the somatic work, the relational work, the recovery work, and the daily practice of staying honest.
She is a Hay House author, a sought-after speaker, and the founder of The Sanctuary. But what matters most to the women she works with is simpler than any credential: she has been where you are, and she did not look away.
Read Hilary's StoryFor the first time in 23 years, I feel empowered and able to take my power back. The techniques Hilary applies, together with her genuine care, have allowed me to shatter barriers.Kristin
Hilary's expertise with somatic work helped me return to my body, get out of my head, and start traveling back to my heart. My life is slowly starting to feel more like mine.Aileen
You got me to give myself credit for being smart enough and introspective enough to do the work. You have a gift, and the space you create allows people to open up in ways they never expected.Jen
It's not a breakdown. It looks nothing like one. It's the slow, invisible drift that happens when you've been saying yes to everyone except yourself for so long that you've lost track of who you actually are.
It looks like saying yes when everything in you wants to say no. It's smiling through tears, pushing through exhaustion, putting on the performance of a woman who has it all together — while silently falling apart inside.
High-functioning women are especially vulnerable. Your life doesn't look broken. And that's the loneliest part — because when nothing looks wrong from the outside, there's nowhere to name what's happening on the inside.
Hilary wrote about this for MindBodyGreen. If something in you just recognized something, that recognition is worth paying attention to.
Read: The Quiet Collapse Is a Silent Epidemic Among High-Functioning Women →You don't need to wait for the scream to justify the work.
Begin Here →Hilary Phelps and Dr. Lipi Roy are writing the guide they wish had existed. A map for the woman who knows something has to change but doesn't yet know how to begin. Published by Hay House, the world's leading voice in personal transformation.
Join the WaitlistHonest reflections on recovery, reinvention, and the daily practice of staying aligned with who you are becoming. Written for women who are doing the work — not performing it.